Showing posts with label #rejection. Show all posts
Showing posts with label #rejection. Show all posts

Saturday, May 9, 2015

REJECTION

Rejection requires patience.

Patience requires the Holy Spirit.

The Holy Spirit gives nine fruits.

The fruit of love, joy, and peace gives freedom.


In Writing

When I retired from my medical coding and bookkeeping job, I set a goal to write and submit to agents or editors on a regular basis. I followed steps to make that dream come true. I joined Romance Writers of America (RWA) and a local group called Red River Romance Writers (RRRW). I wasn't sure what I wanted to write, but I knew all my stories included romance in some way. I attended a weekly critique group where my writing was torn apart verbally.

One of our speakers in RRRW that first year was a writer form Tulsa, Margaret Daley, who spoke on "Falling in Love without Falling in Bed." I loved it. Though I love romance in stories, I'm turned off by the overt sexual content that most publisher seemed to want. She introduced me to a group called American Christian Fiction Writers (ACFW). I joined and attended a conference. I pitched to agents and editors. I submitted and waited, soon receiving rejection after rejection.

Each rejection stalled my writing while I threw myself a pity party.
Finally, through the grace of God and the fruit of patience, I submitted again. I reached the point that I agreed with God to allow one day of self-pity, but the second day, I was required to submit something else, a short story, a query, something. Author, DiAnn Mills, taught at Blue Ridge Christian Writing Conference how to write as a ministry to God. I clung to that idea.

Through RRRW, I learned about another group called Oklahoma Writers Federated International (OWFI). At my first conference in 2011, I pitched to the publisher/owner of 4RV Publishing, Vivian Zabel, my one and only young adult. In a few months, I had my first contract. In 2012, my debut novel, Victoria and the Ghost, became a reality, almost seven years after my first rejection.


In Weight Loss

All my adult life, I exercised a yo-yo cycle of losing and regaining weight. One of those hundred pound losses prepared the way for me to purchase and run a Diet Center franchise. Even then, I faced rejection on a major scale. I became a closet eater. Because of teaching others in the community how to lose weight, I couldn't be seen eating a heavy meal or dessert at a restaurant or banquet. I regained every pound plus five.
BEFORE


Rejection nagged at my heels with every new diet, with every new exercise, with every new pill or shot. Once, taking shots from a doctor to lose weight plunged me into deep depression. Again, I failed.

My husband didn't mean to reject me. He loved me, but he couldn't face what I was doing to myself. I had no patience with anything that took the weight off slowly. The fruits of peace and joy eluded me. I wanted to die. Compulsive overeating bound me in unbreakable chains.

Rejection to patience. Patience to the Holy Spirit. The Spirit to the fruit. The fruit to freedom.
AFTER
God began to heal me. The more I concentrated on the Lord, the more the weight came off, slow, steady, but sure. The Spirit gave the patience. In two years and four months, I lost ninety-five pounds. That was nineteen years ago. God gave freedom over rejection and failure.

In Teenagers with Dysfunctional Families

I write the message of hope for compulsions, addictions, and hang-ups. In my YA book, a fifteen year old girl named Victoria faces rejection from a mother that she adores. The material world that Victoria lives in hasn't prepared her for feelings deeper than deciding on the latest pair of sandals or the biggest thing in jeans. She responds with anger toward the dad that moves her away from her Dallas home to Hicksville.

Anger rules this girl's life; anger at dad, anger at people that are kind to her, anger at God, angry at everyone except the person that rejected her.


 

That's one emotion she can't face.

Rejection to patience, patience to the Holy Spirit, the guidance of the Spirit to the fruits, the fruits to the freedom to love and conquer fear. Victoria learns to forgive without giving up love.


If you face rejection, failure, and bondage, the answer is the fruits of the Holy Spirit. The Spirit teaches about Jesus.

With eyes on Him, anything is possible; relief, success, and freedom.