Showing posts with label #pride. Show all posts
Showing posts with label #pride. Show all posts

Saturday, December 19, 2015

Pride and Perfectionism

Perfectionism can hinder our Christian walk. Though not an obvious obstacle like envy or anger, it still can trip us up. Deceitful in nature, it makes us believe our actions are for God but might only feed our obsession.

 
The obstacle of perfectionism comes, in some form, from pride.
 
We still strive for parent's approval.
We desire laud and compliments.
We believe no one can do it as well as we can.
We seek to control everything.
We fear failure, so we don't do anything.

How do we know the difference between striving for excellence and being tangled in perfectionism?

 
The solution is less of us, and more of God. Remember, our worth comes from Him.

 
I will praise thee, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; marvelous are thy works, and that my soul knoweth right well.
                                             Psalm 139:4                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          
 
We fall into a comparison trap, when God loves us individually. He made us special just the way we are, not to be compared with another of his creations.
 
 
But now hath God set the members every one of them in the body as it hath pleased him.
                   1 Corinthians 12:18
 
 
 
According to Tara Johnson  in Hollow Victory: how to identify & disarm 5 landmines that make Victorious Christian Living Feel Like a Lie, before we take on any chore or ministry, we should ask ourselves this question. "Am I doing this so others will think better of me or is it because I'm trying to give my best to God."
 
 
Another of my favorite books, The Freedom of Letting Go by Donna Clark Goodrich makes these suggestions for dealing with what we consider to be a failure.
 
1. Were you simply not meeting unrealistic expectations?
2. Which doors opened or closed because you tried?
3. How is God using this to direct your life?
4. Accept yourself as you are.
 
 
 
Once, when I felt like such a failure because a class I was teaching closed for lack of interest, my daughter encouraged me by reminding me how God might use what I learned in another way, and that's what happened. The class evolved into a book.
 
From my book, Divine Dining: 365 Devotions to Guide You to Healthier Weight and Abundant Wellness.
 
We ask Jesus to take over for us. We can’t do it alone. What a relief. We can lay down the load we’ve carried for years. Jesus will pick it up and carry it for us. I’m not perfect. Now, I don’t have to act as if I were.
 
Don't let perfectionism tie you in knots and ruin your Christian witness.
 
Give yourself permission to be human.
 
 
P. S. All three self help books can be purchased on Amazon or Barnes and Noble, and make great gifts.