Showing posts with label #overeating #compulsion. Show all posts
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Saturday, August 29, 2015

SERENITY

Serenity Prayer


     "Lord, give me the serenity to accept the things I can not change; the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."

I challenge you to look up the entire prayer of St. Francis of Assisi. It's all good.



As we begin to see how unique and special we are--embraced and accepted by God Himself--our strides toward recovery should grow faster and longer.
                                                     Note on Life Recovery Bible, page 665




****Think back over this week. How many times did you get mad at yourself for not being able to eat something, or mad at someone else because they could eat what you like without weight gain?.

Remember, there’s not any of us perfect.
       Are you serene?                                               

What's the definition of serenity?

Webster’s New World Dictionary

    Clarity, Undisturbed, unclouded, calmness

Roget’s Super thesaurus

    Peace, quiet, stilled, tranquility, at rest


Lack of serenity creates a fertile field for anger, resentment, envy, fear, and self-centeredness. Any of these can drive a compulsive overeater into a binge.


Let’s talk a little about anger and unforgiveness.


Read  Luke 6: 27-36



The 8th step of the 12 step program is being willing to make amends to those we’ve hurt. What’s hardest of all is to apologize for anger or hard feelings for what that person did to us.

     We want them to say “I’m sorry” and reconcile and make it all nice, tied up, and forgiven, but others have their own ideas, and sometimes they won’t forgive, or they blow us off.



Despite others actions, forgiveness is our choice.

Decide to forgive. The feelings will follow.

A few years ago, my husband and I had a local man do us wrong in business. The hardest part was we considered the man a friend , not just a business associate. It hurt. I asked God to help me forgive. I turned it over to God, and made a decision to let it go.

However, living in the same town, I ran into the man from time to time. I couldn't speak to him. Those angry feelings immobilized me and choked off my air. I would turn aside without comment, only to fall on my knees and plead with God to rid me of this turmoil.

One day, I walked into a graduation party for the son of a mutual friend. The ex-business partner was there.

I waited for the feelings to choke me, but nothing happened.

I walked toward the man who had wronged us.

He hugged me. "It's so good to see you," he said.

"It's good to see you, too." God's miracle was complete. The anger had left. I was glad to acknowledge him again as a friend.

Now, that didn't absolve the man from doing us wrong, but it put it between him and God, where it belongs. My conscience was clear. I had forgiven.



To be free of compulsion, we must have serenity.

To have serenity, we must forgive.

To forgive, we must rely on God's doing the work through us.

Saturday, June 27, 2015

How Can You Battle Depression and Overeating?

Being depressed means you can spend all day in bed, and still not get a good night’s rest.
                                                               Anonymous
 

 

I feel inconsequential, unimportant, empty.                       
                                                            My personal journal from 1984
 

Overeating is a symptom.
It isn't the food. It's the fix.

The devil hits us with a double-whammy of depression and overeating.

The compulsion brings on depression.
The depression fuels the compulsion.

The 1-2 punch renders many Christians ineffective for God's work, or even to our family and friends.

The first quote described my oldest daughter during her rough time. She slept all day every day but could never get enough. Panic attacks struck my middle girl when she lost her daughter. My quote revealed my self esteem. I believed my family would be better off without me because I was fat and fussy. 

Symptoms of depression are many and varied; not only being unable to sleep, but unable to make decisions, detached from activities you usually enjoy, or like in my case, stuffing my face until I was sick.

In the Bible, David gave us his description of depression.

    I am weary with my groaning, all the night make I my bed to swim; water my couch with my tears.
    Mine eye is consumed because of grief. It waxeth old because of all mine enemies.
                      Psalm 6:6, 7

Elijah fought depression just after his mountain top experience confronting the prophets of Baal on Mt Carmel.


Let’s discuss some of the answers to help us with depression.

 

1.     Sometimes we need a psychiatrist and medicine.


2.     Christian counseling


3.     Praise music – This was one Tara Johnson recommended in her book “Hollow Victory.” She’s a musician, so that makes sense.


4.     Prayer


5     Read your Bible if you can, or quote Scripture you have memorized if you can.


6.     Make small goals. (leave the house, call your mother/daughter, eat 3 fruits that day)
 
 
7. Get out in God's great outdoors.
Mountain waterfall
 
 
8. Let go and let God.
 
 
 
 
 
To "let go" is not to deny, but to accept our powerlessness.
To "let go" is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future.
To "let go" is admitting we can't do it by ourselves and ask for help.


       9. Ask if you need to H.A.L.T.
     H - hungry
     A - angry
     L - lonely
     T - tired

“There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind.”
C.S. Lewis

That's one of my favorite quotes.

 Remember, what the devil means for evil, God can use for good just like He did for Joseph.

Is Satan using this weapon on you?

What do you need right now to help?

Feel free to contact me at Janet.hope@att.net if you need someone to talk to.