Showing posts with label #forgiveness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label #forgiveness. Show all posts

Wednesday, September 14, 2016

Pick Your Favorite Blog This Month

On August 29, I posted several blogs that pertained to my new release Worth Forgiving.  The link about blog-hopping those posts is http://www.janetkbrown.com/2016/08/last-day-to-enter-giveaway-blog-hopping.html  This post goes through Sept. 7.

Today, I wish to add another group of blogs for the rest of the month of September. Pick your favorite.





9/13/16 Peg Phifer - Why write a series?  https://whispersinpurple.blogspot.com


9/15 Jo Huddleston - a new author interview
http://www.johuddleston.com/

9/16 Rose Allen McCauley - interviews a secondary character in Worth Forgiving
http://rosemccauley.com/

9/20 Toni Shiloh - an insightful author interview
http://tonishiloh.weebly.com/blog/an-interview-with-janet-k-brown


9/23 Elaine Stock - posts my story of God's deliverance from food addiction
http://elainestock.com

9/29 Patti Shene over 50 blog
http://www.pattishene.com/theover50writer This is an inspirational article. You're never too old.


Then on into October,

10/25 Leeann Bates posts my tips on storyboarding

10/27 Donna Schlacter -   promoting my new release, Worth Forgiving


Check them all out. Some have giveaways. All have great information on the topic and about my new release. Which is your favorite?

Thursday, August 4, 2016

Giveaway for New Release

What an opportunity!

What a reason to preorder my newest book!



Worth Forgiving - Book II of the Wharton Rock Series


Prejudice and mistrust hinders an ex-con, drug addict’s new beginning. Could it be that Katie is not Worth Forgiving?

For those who preorder the book in August, 2016, Pen-L Publishing will enter into a drawing, so that one lucky person will receive, on release day Sept. 1, 2016, a signed copy absolutely free.

A new release for free and autographed too.

Pre-order now at http://www.pen-l.com/WorthForgiving.html

You might win!

If not, you'll be one of the first to receive my new release.

Saturday, August 29, 2015

SERENITY

Serenity Prayer


     "Lord, give me the serenity to accept the things I can not change; the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."

I challenge you to look up the entire prayer of St. Francis of Assisi. It's all good.



As we begin to see how unique and special we are--embraced and accepted by God Himself--our strides toward recovery should grow faster and longer.
                                                     Note on Life Recovery Bible, page 665




****Think back over this week. How many times did you get mad at yourself for not being able to eat something, or mad at someone else because they could eat what you like without weight gain?.

Remember, there’s not any of us perfect.
       Are you serene?                                               

What's the definition of serenity?

Webster’s New World Dictionary

    Clarity, Undisturbed, unclouded, calmness

Roget’s Super thesaurus

    Peace, quiet, stilled, tranquility, at rest


Lack of serenity creates a fertile field for anger, resentment, envy, fear, and self-centeredness. Any of these can drive a compulsive overeater into a binge.


Let’s talk a little about anger and unforgiveness.


Read  Luke 6: 27-36



The 8th step of the 12 step program is being willing to make amends to those we’ve hurt. What’s hardest of all is to apologize for anger or hard feelings for what that person did to us.

     We want them to say “I’m sorry” and reconcile and make it all nice, tied up, and forgiven, but others have their own ideas, and sometimes they won’t forgive, or they blow us off.



Despite others actions, forgiveness is our choice.

Decide to forgive. The feelings will follow.

A few years ago, my husband and I had a local man do us wrong in business. The hardest part was we considered the man a friend , not just a business associate. It hurt. I asked God to help me forgive. I turned it over to God, and made a decision to let it go.

However, living in the same town, I ran into the man from time to time. I couldn't speak to him. Those angry feelings immobilized me and choked off my air. I would turn aside without comment, only to fall on my knees and plead with God to rid me of this turmoil.

One day, I walked into a graduation party for the son of a mutual friend. The ex-business partner was there.

I waited for the feelings to choke me, but nothing happened.

I walked toward the man who had wronged us.

He hugged me. "It's so good to see you," he said.

"It's good to see you, too." God's miracle was complete. The anger had left. I was glad to acknowledge him again as a friend.

Now, that didn't absolve the man from doing us wrong, but it put it between him and God, where it belongs. My conscience was clear. I had forgiven.



To be free of compulsion, we must have serenity.

To have serenity, we must forgive.

To forgive, we must rely on God's doing the work through us.

Wednesday, July 15, 2015

Love Hunger

In my weight controlling classes, I use quotes and examples from many books. In Love Hunger: Recovery from Food Addiction by Dr. Frank Minirth, Dr. Paul Meier, Dr. Robert Hemfelt, & Dr. Sharon Sneed, we read, "The first step to food addiction, Love Hunger, most often begins in childhood, but one can get on the addiction cycle later in life as well." 

Finding the root cause of our compulsion or addiction means discovering when and where it started. A baby isn't born that way. I wracked my mind trying to determine what gave me love-hunger.



I was very fortunate that both my parents were in my life, and both loved me. However, I will say that I never lived up to my mother’s expectations. She loved me, but more than that, she loved what she wanted me to be, only I wasn’t that perfect daughter in her mind. She complimented me a lot, but always with a but … .
 
“You’re such a beautiful girl, if you would just lose a little weight.”
 “You are so smart, but I wish you’d speak up more for yourself.”
 
Mother took me to my first weight loss place where I began a diet when I was fourteen. Thinking back, I guess this was my trigger (my love-hunger). I was embarrassed and felt insecure to need such a place.

To receive my total emotional healing from God, I began with that trigger time. Before I could heal, I had to forgive. By this time, my mother was gone. I didn't know how to express my forgiveness. One time, while I was taking a course on the book of John in the Bible, God spoke to me to write her a letter.

I did, writing to my mother and telling her how she hurt me with her comments, with her lack of acceptance of who I really was, then I told her that I knew she did the best she could do. I remembered her telling me about her mean-spirited grandmother. Compassion welled in my heart for the little girl who was sickly and unable to work in the cotton fields with her brothers and sister, for the taunting and harsh words that befell her though she was unable to change her health. The more I wrote the freer I became.


When I was bound in addiction, I could've never imagined that God would have me writing at this desk as He dictated. Praise God for His miraculous healing.

I'm not saying that you need to write a letter of forgiveness, but maybe you do. What I'm saying, is if you're bound with a food addiction, ask God to show you the root cause. Then, ask Him to heal that love hunger.

(See the way God does things and fall into line. Don't fight the facts of nature.) Who can straighten what he has made crooked?
            Ecclesiates 7:13 The Life Recovery Bible


Not everything is fair in life, but God is control.

And, God heals. My life is a testimony to that.



Wednesday, May 20, 2015

Forget About It


“For I will forgive their wickedness and will remember their sins no more.” Hebrews 8:12 NIV

 
 

     When I pull into my garage after going to the grocery store, I love to spot my husband’s car at home because I know, he can lift my burden of groceries and bring them into the house relieving me of that weight. Once I told him to pile everything on the sofa so it wouldn’t be on the kitchen counter where I needed to start dinner. Unfortunately, he didn’t follow my instructions. Imagine that? By habit, he placed every sack on the kitchen counter.

 

     I huffed, puffed, and transferred every item from the counter to the sofa, struggling against the weight of five pound flour and two milk cartons. When I’d finished, my back ached from the heavy-lifting, and my anger fomented against my husband.

 

     “Why didn’t you remind me?” he asked. “I meant to lift them for you.”

 

     Are we like that with God? Do we ask for our sins to be removed, but then pick them up again to carry?

 

     Satan uses past sins to disable our effectiveness. When I repented and asked Jesus into my heart, He took my burden of sin and cast it as the Bible says, “as far as the east is from the west.” Therefore, I can be sure that any condemnation I have over sins from my past comes from the devil.

 

     Leave them with Jesus. Talk to him about any anguish you feel. He means to relieve us of those burdens. Not unlike unwanted pounds on our bodies, resentment and anger are too heavy for us to bear.

 
 

Prayer: Lord, I leave my sins at Your feet. Help me to forget about them as You have done.



Today, I read this devotion in my own book, Divine Dining: 365 Devotions to Guide You to Healthier Weight and Abundant Wellness.
I decided to copy it here. I needed to hear it.


Perhaps, you do, too.



Saturday, May 16, 2015

FORGIVENESS

Do you have questions about what the Bible says about forgiveness? Here's my warning from the Lord.


    F-O-R-G-I-V-E

 
          Or

 
         D-I-E

 
 

In Christianity, forgiveness isn’t an option. If we are to live, we must yield all anger.

 

     The madder I get, the more I eat, the more I yell or pout, and the more I dive into other compulsive behaviors. You may handle anger in other ways, but anger left in your heart expands into resentment and resentment into unforgiveness. Let it go, or it will destroy your witness and eventually your life.

 

What did Jesus tell us about forgiveness?
 
"Then, Peter came to him and asked, 'Sir, how often should I forgive a brother who sins against me? Seven times?
 
'No!' Jesus replied, 'seventy times seven!'"
                Matthew 18: 21, 22 New Recovery Bible

How many of us come close to forgiving that many times? Jesus is saying we should always forgive. No room should be given in a Christian's heart for unforgiveness.

 

What does the Bible say about forgiveness in the Lord’s prayer?

  

Hint: (Matthew 6: 12)
 
 
Doesn't forgiveness mean I wasn't wronged?
 
No. A plaque that hangs on the wall of a local mental hospital uses these anonymous quotes:
 
to "let go" is not to deny, but to accept.
to "let go" is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future.
to "let go" is to fear less, and love more.

 
If we forgive, how do we get rid of the pain and hurt?

Like with any sin, we must first confess. God will never force himself on you. You must expose the hurt for Him to take it away.


 
"Before you can really begin the healing process of forgiveness, you must come to a point where you acknowledge that God is aware of every struggle you encounter. He knows that some of the hurts you have suffered are intensely painful. He understands that you need to grieve, heal, and be restored.
        Landmines in the Path of the Believer by Charles Stanley

 

 
Our red bud tree gives blooms of hope in March

To receive the healing that forgiveness brings, you must lift your head to the Lord and trust Him with judgment for wrong-doings. Then, pray for those who’ve hurt you or been unfair.

 

Sometimes, forgiveness doesn't come immediately. I remember one time with a "friend" that took advantage of us in a business venture causing us embarrassment, frustration, and a lot of money. I prayed and prayed for God to heal the pain, but every time I saw the man, anger reared its ugly head again and sent me back to my knees. After two years, I entered a party not expecting him to be there, but he was. I smiled and went into his open arms, all unforgivenss gone, never to return. Praise God. 

When we forgive, we receive the peace that passeth all understanding. It’s the only way can we live a healthy, Godly life, the only way we can bloom and produce fruit as God asks.

 

One extra note: Forgiveness isn't easy and only comes through God.