Showing posts with label #compulsion. Show all posts
Showing posts with label #compulsion. Show all posts

Wednesday, March 2, 2016

Is Willpower Enough?

Then you will know the truth and the truth will set you free.

                                   John 8:32
 

If there is one truth I’ve learned since the Lord healed me of compulsive overeating, it’s that I must be honest and real.

 
Me at 250 pounds
That truth provides the basis for my book Divine Dining: 365 Devotions to Guide You to Healthier Weight and Abundant Wellness.http://www.pen-l.com/DivineDining.html
 

     Despite the trusted belief to the contrary, will power isn’t the answer for weight loss. My strong will power fueled my disease. I reached two hundred, fifty pounds. By then, I was an emotional wreck with thoughts of suicide. Food dominated everything I did.

     I was a Christian, so I prayed for God to help me, to stop the cravings, to take away the desire to overeat. Nothing lasted. I rose from my knees to try another diet, to do it for myself. I could tell you the caloric content of foods, what to eat and what to avoid. Knowledge did not translate into success. My will power would last for days or for months, but then it turned on me and pushed me to eat what I wanted, so that I regained the weight, plus some. Nothing worked until I truly gave up trying and told God if He didn't heal me, I was doomed. Desperation drives divine dining.

     Every week during a Christian weight loss class, I soaked up the lessons presented. When the teacher moved, I continued to teach the class. I lost weight in direct proportion to my reliance on Christ. God healed me emotionally. While teaching this class, I also attended a twelve-step Overeater’s Anonymous group. I tore down the idol of food and put God on the throne of my heart.
Showing off my 3 books including Divine Dining in the center.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
     In Divine Dining I teach principles from my weight loss journey. Even now, after eighteen years, I read books and literature over and over to keep me inspired, and keep off the weight.


     I have several daily devotion books, some specifically for compulsive overeaters, but Divine Dining is the first one I’ve found that combines a twelve-step approach with drawing closer to Christ and allowing Him to take His rightful place in our lives.



     A few years ago, the Lord woke me in the middle of the night. My mind popped with devotions. I wrote fourteen before I went back to bed. For four years, ideas came to me. Sometimes I wrote one a day. Other times I wrote one a week.
Now, at 150 pounds, 100 lbs. less
By the time I had finished 300 devotions, I knew this wasn’t meant just for me. God wanted me to share it. I started submitting. Pen-L Publishing released it in December, 2012.


 
It remains my best seller.
 
Soon, I’ll be releasing a workbook as a compliment to the devotion book. Keep tuned for further information.

Saturday, February 27, 2016

How Important is Honesty to Deliverance from Addictions?

     This morning, our local Christian station played a song about honesty. The lyrics tell us honesty brings freedom and joy. Wow, is that ever true.

 
Honesty is imperative to follow Christ’s will in weight loss, or deliverance from any addiction, obsession, or hang up. A thorough, honest inventory exposes wounds and rips open scars where God’s touch can rub in salve.

 
 
And how can we be sure that we belong to him? By looking within ourselves; are we really trying to do what he wants us to?

Someone may say, "I am a Christian; I am on my way to heaven; I belong to Christ.” But if he doesn’t do what Christ tells him to, he is a liar.

                                      1 John 2:7,8


Ouch! A liar?


If you’re not honest about everything, it’s the same as not being honest about anything. There’s no such thing as being partially honest, anymore than there’s such a thing as being a little pregnant.


Sneaky sins creep into our life; a bit of resentment, a smattering of anger, a tad of envy, a small disobedience. We think it’s not big enough to worry about. We should keep going to church and confessing Christ, and deny bad thoughts.
 

My husband says, “I’d admit my faults if I had any.” He’s joking, of course, but many of us live our Christian life as if we were saying that to the world, all the time while we’re stuffing stinking thinking into our mouth with a plateful of goodies.
 

I can’t fix myself, but God can fix me. He died to save my sins. I’m perfect in Him. My part is surrender.

 

“The first time I shared my story with others, I died to myself. I felt like God needed me to tell it, and after I did, I was overwhelmed by the needs of those around me.”

                 Food for the Hungry Heart
                           By Cynthia Rowland McClure

 

I found that to be true. When I was honest with others, they no longer feared opening up about their own struggles. After we do a thorough inventory, we must bring it first to God, and then to at least one other person. In honesty comes healing. I recommend following the twelve steps of Overeaters Anonymous. (See my page to the right for all 12 steps).

 
Do you need to start today? Here’s the first four steps:

 
1.     Admit you are powerless over ________

2.     Admit that God can overcome your __________

3.     Turn your will and your problem over to God.

4.     Begin a thorough, honest inventory of your life.

 
No, I don’t like being called a liar, but I was. I hid anger, resentment, envy, and despair. I worried that if people knew what I was really like, they wouldn’t like me, anymore.

 
But, God already knew.
 

Wednesday, December 2, 2015

What is Temperance?

Temperance is a gift from God.



But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance; against such there is no law.
        Galatians 5: 22, 23 KJV

The ninth fruit (or gift) is temperance.

I don’t know about you, but when I try to list the fruits of the Spirit, I get love, joy, peace, even patience and faith. The one I forget is temperance.


In American society, where we want everything bigger and better, where we preach “doing your own thing,” or “marching to the beat of a different drummer,” where we preach tolerance for all excesses, temperance is an ugly word.

 

What is temperance?

 

Webster’s New World Dictionary gives this definition: self restraint in conduct, no indulgence of the appetite; moderation

 

Cicero is quoted as defining temperance as the moderating of one’s desires in obedience to reason.

 

Abraham Lincoln said, “The demon of intemperance ever seems to have delighted in sucking the blood of genius and generosity.”

 

      Temperance or, as we usually call it, self-control may be good, but it doesn’t come easy. We all have our weaknesses, those things in which we struggle, things that hamper our walk with God, limit our witness to others, and trip us up when we need the Lord the most.

     The problems I’ve battled most of my adult life are low self esteem, roller coaster emotions, and compulsive overeating.

     What is your weakness? What brings you failure time and again in your service to God?

 
     Is it your sharp tongue?

     Is it fear or lack of trust?

     Do you love sports so much, or shopping, or the casinos that you allow those desires to take the place of God in your life?

    Are you having trouble forgiving someone, and every time you get around them, it hits you in the face again?

    Do you fight depression?

    Does perfectionism take you down over and over?
 
     It is our self-will run riot that pushes us on…. Trying to use self-will to control a compulsion or mindset is like trying to put out a fire with gasoline.
     “When Willpower is Not Enough,” from Hazelden Publications.

####Remember temperance is a gift from God, a fruit given by the Holy Spirit. Our willpower or determination is useless without God’s control.
 
 True willpower is our willingness to rely on God.
 
Relying on God begins over again every day as if no progress had been made in the past. Pray, meditate, ask God for fruit from the Spirit, especially Number 9.
 

Saturday, November 14, 2015

How is Gratitude Like Bookkeeping?



Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Philippians 4:8

 

Meditate on, or think about good things.
Colorado wild flowers among the rocks

 

 

An attitude of gratitude is God’s best weapon against compulsions, hang-ups, or flaws.

 

Gratitude and self-condemnation can’t reside in the same mind. Jesus told us we can’t serve both Him and the devil. Neither can we sincerely thank God for His goodness and love, when we wallow in self pity.

 

My thought


BALANCE SHEET


****For several years, I was a full charge bookkeeper. When composing a balance sheet for a business, we must refrain from putting assets and liabilities in the wrong column.

 

When we fail God and dwell on that failure, our minds count our liabilities. When we stop to thank God, we count our assets. Assets cover up liabilities every time. Don’t dwell on your weakness. Dwell on God’s power.

 

Don’t base your action on how you feel. Base it on what you know. Give up your life, your will, your choices each day to God, and base your decisions for all areas of your life on His direction.

 

Don’t put the liabilities where the assets should go.

 
 

INCOME STATEMENT

 
 
After making a balance sheet of assets and liabilities for a business, we move to preparing an income statement with columns for profit followed by each listed expense.

 

I was born and raised in Dallas, Texas and surrounding area. When our children were young, we lived in the suburb of Irving. I grouped my neighbors and friends from my daughters’ school and day care into one circle of my life. I worked in downtown Dallas, and that represented a separate portion of my life. We went to church and had old friends in the Oak Cliff section of Dallas representing a third section.

 
When we moved to a smaller city (Wichita Falls, TX), I found it amazing that I went to church with neighbors and served in PTA at school with fellow church friends. I love it. It simplifies life.

 

 


In life as if they were expenses, we separate each area: God, family, career, hobbies, church, friends, responsibilities.


We compartmentalize when God wants them blended under one umbrella called God.

 

 


“It’s not even good enough to regard God as the biggest piece of the pie. If we see Him that way, we’ll still leave Him out of the rest of our lives. The‘piecrust’ of God’s love, power, and truth is the foundation for everything we do.”

                        Extravagant by Bryan Jarrett

 

***My thought***We shouldn’t ask God to ride along in the front seat of our life. We should request that he drive.

 

 


 

During the month of Thanksgiving, this quote below makes us think:

 

The Pilgrims made seven times more graves than huts. No Americans have been more impoverished than these who, nevertheless, set aside a day of thanksgiving.

                                  ~H.U. Westermayer

 
Any comments?

 

Saturday, August 22, 2015

Is It God's Way or the My Way?

There is a way that seems right to man, but in the end it leads to death.
                                        Proverbs 16:25



     Willpower is fine as far as it goes, but for the compulsive overeater, it does not go far enough. The obsession we are trying to control is not rational, so it does not come under the sway of rational resolve. As a matter of fact, it is our “self-will run riot” that pushes us on from bite to bite all the way through a binge, so trying to use self-will to control compulsive overeating is like trying to put out a fire with gasoline. The driving force behind out white-knuckled, clenched-teeth “no” can just as well shift over and fuel the mania to swallow more and more and everything.
                   from Hazelden Publication "When Willpower Is Not Enough"


First 3 steps of Overeaters Anonymous
 
1.     We admitted we were powerless over food, that our lives had become unmanageable.
2.     Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
3.     Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
I’ve always been a journal-keeper through the good and the bad.
******I found this post in a journal from several years ago:
     What I have trouble with is step three (action). I can say the words “Lord, take over my will,” but I obviously don’t mean them because I continue to try to control and react negatively when it goes contrary to my wishes.
     I must learn to not react to others’ problems. Step three and giving up control is in direct proportion to my spiritual condition. God is in the now, not past or future.
 

 
Jesus said unto him, "Thou shalt love the Lord, thy God with all thy heart, and with all they soul, and with all thy mind.
                           Matthew 22:37
 
     I think we get down the heart, the soul, even the strength. We follow Christ with everything in us, but we have a problem when it comes to our minds.
     Our minds take in our reason
                           logic
                           desire
                           imagination
                           memory
                           will
 
Our minds rebel, maybe only in a small area (like food). Jesus commanded us to love Him even with our whole mind. Rebellion in any area is simply rebellion, and God will not tolerate that. Like a rotten apple in a barrel of good ones, our small rebellion grows into a mountain of sin.
 
 
Who is driving the vehicle of your life? Who controls your food, your time, your thoughts?
 
When you begin the next diet, pray about it. Could it be that you're following a way that seems right to you, but ends in death and defeat?